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“Peeling away, yet I’m compelled to stay, cherishing you from a place between drawing blood & the gentlest touch.” - Hangnail

Hanging on by a thread…

I've been active on Threads and I'm enjoying it so far. However, I haven't fully figured out how the algorithm works. It shows me a lot of content from local users in Charlotte, with many threads about food, traffic, dating, fitness, and life in Uptown. 

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Random Observation About Nothing #5,000,654

Random Observation About Nothing #5,000,654

My interest in [redacted] isn't about wanting her, but about why she's not falling for me like others usually do.

The self-proclaimed social media experts, "Hmm... since you got your degree, and you know every fucking thing," would label me a narcissist. But honestly, it’s more of an ego thing than full-on narcissism.

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Why Moving is Sometimes the Most Intimate Act of Self-Love

 Why Moving is Sometimes the Most Intimate Act of Self-Love

Lately, I’ve been contemplating a move to Houston, TX, or possibly back to Atlanta, GA. The possibility has me reflecting on how moving can be a profound act of self-love. It’s more than just changing addresses; it’s about consciously prioritizing your well-being over comfort or the expectations of others. 

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291 → 258 → 225: Charting My Transformation

291 → 258 → 225: Charting My Transformation

291 → 258 → 225: Charting My Transformation

32.1 Pounds Down in 96 Days

On June 29th, 2024, I stood on the scale during a doctor’s visit, weighing 291 pounds. Fast forward to September 26th, and I’m now at 258 pounds— 32.1 pounds lighter in just 96 days. My goal? To reach 225 pounds by the first quarter of 2025, and I’m well on track to hit, also make weight ;) I anticipate being 243 pounds by December 31st.

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Reflections on Relationships: The Cities That Taught Me Lessons

Reflections on Relationships: The Cities That Taught Me Lessons

After my divorce, I quickly learned that dating in these un-united of states is different. Our attachment to technology has escalated the disconnection, reducing genuine connections to swipes, likes, and fleeting messages. This experience has transformed my view of relationships.

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Tuesday Musings and What’s On My Mind Right Now

Tuesday Musings and What’s On My Mind Right Now

Death and Loss: The Weight of Remembrance

The two-year remembrance of my mother brings the weight of grief back into sharp focus, but this time it feels layered with the pain of others around me. Witnessing my co-worker and close friend endure their own losses has deepened my reflections on death. Their grief reminds me of the universality of sorrow, yet each person’s experience is so uniquely personal. As I support them, I find my own grief taking on new dimensions, teaching me not just about the fragility of life but also the importance of remembrance as a way to honor both the loss and the lessons left behind by those we loved.

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Happiness Is A New Idea

Happiness Is A New Idea

In November 2020, I wrote a post titled Love, Undeserving Of It was a moment of reflection, prompted by someone telling me they didn’t feel good enough for me. I was confused, not because I thought I was above anyone, but because I’ve always held a deep sense of my own worthiness, my capability, and my right to be loved. As always, I went somewhere and 'sat down' to search for clarity and understanding regarding the root of this feeling, not just in others, but within myself.

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Don’t Use Your Sadness As a Weapon

Don’t Use Your Sadness As a Weapon

We all experience sadness— It’s a fundamental part of being human. Whether it stems from a loss, disappointment, or a difficult life situation, sadness is a natural emotion that helps us process our experiences. When I read my daily update via Co-Star I immediately understood. I don't believe I weaponize my sadness, I typically go inward and isolate not wanting to pull anyone into it. However, I recognize a fine line between feeling sad and using that sadness as a weapon in our relationships; love, marriage, friendship, family, and work. When sadness becomes a tool for manipulation, it can damage trust, create resentment, and ultimately deteriorate the foundation of even the strongest connections. 

Manipulation is a strong word choice,

"But it is what it is."

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Emotional Polemics

Emotional Polemics

Benefit of the doubt doesn’t apply when it comes to the appeasing of lingering feelings. What I’ve realized is that my friends had emotions tied into previous relationships, just as I had emotions. Closure is finding the ending. And that ending can sound like Adele’s Someone Like You or it sounds like Never Someone Like Me.

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I'm Proud of You

I'm Proud of You

There are few phrases as simple yet impactful as "I'm proud of you." When spoken genuinely, it lifts others in ways we might not fully appreciate until we hear them ourselves.

As we navigate through life, striving and working hard, we often doubt ourselves. We chase after goals, endure setbacks, and sometimes get lost in the grind. Amidst all this, it's easy to forget to pause and recognize our achievements, let alone hear someone else do it…

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Friday Afternoon Musings and What’s On My Mind Right Now

Friday Afternoon Musings and What’s On My Mind Right Now

Honor among thieves, the 2024 election cycle.

During my last eight years at BofA, I formed strong connections with folks. Yesterday, I felt immense gratitude while talking with a former coworker who has become a great friend. I initiated the call and started with, “I have ten people in my favorites on my phone, and you are one of them.” We weren’t talking about anything in particular, but it highlighted how much I value genuine connections…

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Random Observation About Nothing #2,549,954

Random Observation About Nothing #2,549,954

I’ve been married twice, both times to a Virgo. Their quirks and classic traits have become my baseline. Eighteen years with one and over twenty with the other have shaped my entire adult life. If you asked me how a woman would act in any given scenario, my perspective would be undeniably influenced by my experiences with them…

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Think In Images

Think In Images

Experiences shape our understanding and appreciation of the world in vivid, lasting images. Art captures the essence of emotions, nature's beauty speaks to our souls through its colors and forms, and cooking becomes an act of love and connection. Each teaches us to think in images, enhancing our lives with memories that stay with us forever.

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Wounding and Healing

Wounding and Healing

I wrote this post in December 2013, and it's fascinating how little has changed since then.

Reposting now—

Exercise in Observation

My social media streams are diverse. Included are elements of everything that I love; music, food, photography, sports, and reading [books and blogs]. There are very few antipathies, if I encounter anything I disagree with, rather than debate I remind myself that living souls have the right to believe who, what, when, where, and why they want.

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Lol, I’m Just Serious

Lol, I’m Just Serious

Connection Crabbing

Connection crabbing is often the result of a relationship catalyst-- one of two parties seeking to end a relationship, whether social media or ones that spill over into the streets. The other party's hurt and confusion become destructive and are exhibited in this manner, either out of feelings of rejection or a desire to control and hurt. 

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