Random Observation #523,019
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Messenger of Love, Being In Love With the Idea Of, and Masculinity
Of Messenger of Love
I’ve always been fascinated with people valuing the messenger over the message…
Read MoreA Short Story Starring Me
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I went home for lunch today and on my way down, I’m on the 25th floor, the elevator stops on the 23rd. There was a woman waiting, standing and talking when the doors opened (but not getting on)… and as the doors start to close she approaches, I do the fake reach to stop the doors from closing and she hops on…
Read MoreNothing Comes From Nothing
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In the flow of conversation with a good friend, I assertively talked about my awareness and understanding of the dynamics of aging. In context, the discussion was specific to me as a single unknown black male. The subtext, was specific to me being alone (not lonely) as I age.
Read MoreRandom Observation #120,058
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Random Observation #120,058
July 2nd - July 8th, The Week of Rest and Introspection
I took the week off from work without plans and tried to force myself to get up, get out and get something when all I needed was rest and introspection…
Read MoreBrian Has Notifications Silenced
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Why does this trigger people?
I silence mine because I don’t want to witness the end of time, shutting myself off to the uncertainty of whatever is going on /end
It’s not that deep. Focus modes automatically silences notifications; driving, personal, work, and etcetera.
A short story starring ME…
Read MoreJealously and Admiration Run Neck and Neck
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There is a quote that reads…
“It is the character of very few Wo/Men to honor without envy a friend who has prospered”
I’ve been holding court with The Key and she has been trying to reconcile envy and jealousy in her relationship categories: Love, Work, Family and Friendships.
Read MoreMonday Musings and What’s on My Mind Right Now
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The Oedipus Complex
I B’ chopping it up with The Glaws about life, all its ironic twists, and how they may sometimes startle us. /End Dramatics. I’ve been laughing considering the truth in something she shared with me, I’m paraphrasing but the gist is that we’re attracted to people who look like our parents. All of you that know me also know my preference; five-nine, medium to dark skin, natural (hair, nails, etcetera) …
Read MoreThe Cure by Love
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I’m having déjà vu and amnesia at the same time— I think I’ve written this before. Maybe it was a conversation with one of the two of you who read my blog?
Of Attractiveness
The other night I celebrated with a friend on her birthday, there were three of us— It was small and intimate. A week prior I got F.R.E.S.H. with a full haircut to celebrate another friend on her birthday. Due to timing and a need to ‘stay ready,’ I got a ‘fresh up (hair and beard line up) for the weeks’ end activities.
Read MoreStreet Gossip
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Just because it's public, still doesn't make it my business.
I’ve destroyed and rebuilt my online presence at least four times. I’ve used different usernames, UnknownBlackMale having the greatest run, what a time. Then I embraced a different approach. I started using my real name, real photo and I stopped policing how others use social media. It has kept me accountable, when I Am mindful (but not really) of what I post I reduce the risk of my future baby mama seeing me turning up with a bunch of hose.
Read MoreLogical Calisthenics: Change Lose to Find
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Lose
The theme in my relationships during the past few weeks is centered around losing. All of you are weird so my non-romantic relationships.
I’m single, tell your single aunties about me.
Read MoreDope Ass Friends
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“… fuck you and your lame ass friends.”
This is a line from a comment on Fair Trade. I couldn’t care less about the comment, but it made me think a lot about friendship and what it means to be a friend. 'Friend' has been bastardized so much that when someone uses it, we aren’t sure if the person means something or they’re just some random nigga they have an eConnection with.
Read MoreMegalomania
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Whenever someone hops into Reese Cup they comment on the smell. I don’t have the official stats but understand there aren’t a lot of folks in and out of her.
Pause.
I can count on two hands how many people have ridden in my car so I’ma say 10 outta 10 riders love the smell.
Read MoreWhat’s Beef?
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I Am (rather I can be) laid back and unruffled. I try not to take anything too personal; I also try to avoid absorbing others negativity. Statistics have shown that 63.48% of the time when others are upset with you it has very little to do with you. I watched Ted Lasso S03 EP9 this morning. Isaac charges into the stands after a fan screams derogatory language towards him…
Read MoreIndependently Dependent - O. B. TramueL
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Recently I wrote about meeting people where they are.
MEETING PEOPLE WHERE THEY ARE
Young, Middle Age, and Older Adults
Over the past ten years, I have connected with truly remarkable people. Our lives go better connecting with those who help us evolve into our higher selves. Life has taught me to see the best in people, and it’s driven me mental when people see the worst in me. Life should say show them the best in themselves because they forget that. Self-improvement is a two-way street.
Read MoreIndependently Dependent - J. Immanuel
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I think this is a load of crap...
There’s been so much talk lately about what men and women bring to the table.
I’m sure you’ve heard it…unless you’ve been living under a rock somewhere.
I don’t understand why men and women are going to war over something so trivial.
As a woman of faith, I’m sure you know that you’re not a table…
Read MoreIndependently Dependent - Cleo
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Society has us in a chokehold when it comes to what we should be doing. We should be married before children, graduate college, working a respectable job, own a home and car, and be mentally stable while dealing with the fuckshit called life. We also should be in a position to take care of our parents because, ya know, they raised us.
What society does not tell us is…
Read MoreIndependently Dependent - Intro
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Forty-One Years To Life, Forever Young, Life Changes
These are a series of written essays submitted by family and friends centered around aging however, in a construct of youth. Cleo shared a thought that resonated and as I looked back over the series, I realized a common theme.
Growth
Read MoreThe Top Five Boos of All Time
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Back in the days when I was a teenager. Before I had status and before I had a pager. You could find the Abstract listening to hip hop. My pops used to say, it reminded him of be-bop. I said, well daddy don't you know that things go in cycles. The way that Bobby Brown is just ampin like Michael. It's all expected, things are for the lookin. If you got the money, Quest is for the bookin’
Things do go in cycles. Summer is coming and I’m reminded of the top five boos of all time…
Read MoreRandom Observation #180,058
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I have photos of me framed and on display in my bedroom. Is this vanity? Don't answer, its rhetorical. No one is ever in my bedroom, so I stare at my photos until the answer comes to me.
Now look at me, look at me. How much vanity do you see…
Read MoreA Fair Trade
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I been losing friends and finding peace. Honestly, that sounds like a fair trade to me.
LOSING FRIENDS
Y’all know my thoughts on this… I don’t argue, I don’t ponder, I move on as I’m sure they do.
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