It’s Not You, It’s Me

The other person is never the problem. The problem is our reaction.

On the daily there are a myriad of ways people be’ vexing me.  Horrible drivers, ineffectual, rude, inconsiderate, moving too slow, moving too fast, not tidy, uncaring…

At times I Am guilty of injustice collecting. This involves holding on to feeling offended, frustrated, irritated, angry, or disappointed. The two people who read my blog know that I Am interested in generating thought processes that lead to creativity, productivity, pleasure, or relaxation.

In comparison injustice collection generates thought processes that involve deprivation, control, criticism, and rejection. This produces tension, frustration, anger, and cynicism.

When I feel tension, frustration, anger, and cynicism I center myself and reset. The two people who read my blog know that I regularly use "to-me" language, to remind myself and others of the self-locality of my views, value judgements, beliefs, assumptions, and conclusions, and to explicitly affirm the rights of others to hold their own views. 

The best way to get there is to meet people where they are, show grace and accept them as they are. The other person is never the problem. The problem is our reaction. You are not responsible for their feelings, only how you advise them of your disinterest.

Respectfully,