Transformation
/With deep changes in two of my relationship categories; marriage and family (parent-child) I’ve been in my feelings about what it takes to have loving relationships. We can learn a lot from self-observation and while I did not find the keys to success, I do understand relationships can be “third entities.” Entities that can lead an existence independent of the will or desire of its partners or one that can prove far stronger than either individual.
Perhaps the prolific Dominican and African-American poet John David Jackson said it best…
“I’m a movement by myself
But I’m a force when we’re together
Mami I’m good all by myself
But baby you, you make me better
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I’ve attempted to live by Obey. Love. Serve. Excel., a formula for devotion, shared with me by someone special ♬ back in the day when I was a teenager, before I had status and before I had a pager♬
As I’ve evolved, and by evolved I mean aged, one of the BIGgest lessons I’ve learned — there is nothing constant but change.
Expanding Obey. Love. Serve. Excel. to include transform.
First Corinthians 16:13-14
A transformational passage for men … It begins, “Be on your guard; stand firm in faith; be men of courage; be strong.” BIG Masculine Energy. This verse calls us towards attributes that fit the picture we see in images, read in words, watch in performances when we think of masculinity but there is a hidden surprise – verse 14,
“Do everything in love.”
Be Vigilant
Be Resolute
Be Valiant
Be Mighty
The direction of these attributes are outward toward others. None are self-directed. Using strength and courage for the sake of others focuses on faithfulness, dependability, compassion and sacrifice.
I understand transformation (to me language) is not a result of performing and striving. It’s a result of brokenness and repair.
Harm None,
B